Women of Victorian times were expected to be consummate hostesses. From an early age, they filled hope chests with the appropriate linens for future entertaining. Although the first tea set was tiny and the first “guests” were dolls and teddy bears, the practice of proper table etiquette was often initiated with young ladies by learning how to properly pour and serve tea. Chaperoned meetings with a prospective suitor for tea was an acceptable activity for a young woman, and local establishments hosted tea dances to provide opportunities for proper courtship.

Upon finding a suitable husband, Victorian women were expected to always be prepared to welcome any person who might come to call. In social partnership with her mate, the Victorian wife was adept at making a guest in her home feel special, and was a true asset to the advancement of her husband’s career interests and her family’s reputation. A beautiful tea service was an appropriate wedding gift, and at least one sterling silver tea service was almost mandatory. Tea and the appropriate finger sandwiches were always a part of the well-stocked Victorian household.

As one of the few nonacademic opportunities for camaraderie outside of the home, meeting for afternoon tea was another way young Victorian women could visit with each other and “see and be seen” within the community. When considered ready for “society,’ they could be observed at a reputable establishment, enjoying afternoon tea and practicing their skills of artful conversation. To this day, an invitation to a formal afternoon tea is an opportunity for any woman to wear the most tasteful and fashionable attire, including a hat and gloves.